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Becoming the Great Empress: Madams, Moms, Motherhood

April 15, 2016 by Rebecca Huff // This post contains affiliate links
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Last Updated on June 29, 2022 by Rebecca Huff

My therapist says something to me almost every single time we meet… which until she went on maternity leave, was every week! What she says, usually through laughter, is “you have GOT to write a book!”

Recently, during a ladies group meeting at my home, the topic of my “signature” on a few signs around the house came up in conversation. I simply explained to the group, “that's the name I go by around here.” The name? When I sign my name on notes at home it's simply, “The Royal Empress” but when my children hear me calling they usually quickly run to me while answering, “yes Great Empress!?” as they impress me with their most humble and respectful bows.

Becoming the Great Empress: Madams, Moms, Motherhood

Truly, this is not an achievement I can brag about, as my children came up with this on their own. You see, it started a long time ago, before they were even born!

I read The Good Earth by Pearl S Buck back in 2003 and fell in love with her description of China. I read every single one of her books in the next few years. Nothing could quench my thirst for learning more about China. I devoured books about the history of China, but I preferred historical fiction.

My favorite was reading about Imperial families and especially the Empresses of China. Over the next decade I read and learned all I could about the Chinese Empires. As I learned I watched plenty of documentaries and other historical movies about Emperors and Empresses. I love learning about other cultures and I simply I took my children along with me on my learning adventure.

Becoming the Great Empress: Madams, Moms, Motherhood

I started believing I would visit China after my last child was born in 2008. I knew I couldn't go while she was still a toddler, but I believed one day soon I would go. As I dreamed and planned to go to China, I talked with my children about the country, it's history, the people there and what I imagined it would be like. I practiced speaking Mandarin Chinese and I learned Chinese Calligraphy and I taught them too.

When my dream finally became a reality in 2015, I took my oldest daughter, Macey and we explored China. It was not a tour that many American's go on. We were roughing it a little bit. I wanted to see what REAL China was like from North to South. I packed a lot in and I know it was more “adventure” than my daughter had expected, but I still get goosebumps when I think about our time in China! I actually cried when I stepped in the Forbidden City and again on the Great Wall.

Becoming the Great Empress: Madams, Moms, Motherhood

My two youngest children Harm and Shawna kept in touch with me via WeChat (a mobile text and voice messaging communication service developed by Tencent China) during my time away from home.  I knew the firewall would prevent me sharing a lot on Facebook, etc.. I sent photos via WeChat of the palace, guards, the Great Wall as well as detailed messages to them daily about what life was really like as I observed everything around me.

Harm really became fascinated with studying the Chinese military and history of China. He already had wanted to come with me so much.  It was after my return from this trip that the children started playing a little game with me.  I have a super-fun relationship with my children. I'm not a perfect mom or super mom by any means; I mess up, I yell, I act ugly and I have to apologize. However, we are also very close and they love and respect me and for that I feel truly blessed.

Becoming the Great Empress: Madams, Moms, Motherhood

Their game began with calling me the “Great Empress” or “Royal Empress” even though I never once asked them to do this and it was a little embarrassing at first. Especially when they did it in front of other people. My son pretends (but he would not say he was pretending) to be the General of my Royal Imperial Empresses Army, RIEA for short. I asked my son why he called me the Great Empress and he said, “well you are the mistress of the household!” ha ha ha

If I drop something on the floor both younger children run forth and retrieve it for me while holding it up to me like I really AM royalty, while saying something like, “the Empress should never have to bend down.” All of this is done joyfully on their part.

I have a thing about putting my bare feet on the ground and since we don't wear shoes in the house, I always wear slippers inside. The children tell their Daddy, “have you ever noticed that the Empress' royal feet never touch the ground?” To which he wholeheartedly agrees, with a wink towards me, that the Empress' feet should NEVER!

Becoming the Great Empress: Madams, Moms, Motherhood

When I call my children, they come immediately, quickly and cheerfully. Not only because they have learned through our character studies, that this is the right thing to do, but because they WANT to. I have spent time nurturing and building a relationship with them and they actually want to please me. It's not at all important to me that they call me Great Empress, but it's fun for them, and after I got used to it, well, it's fun for me too.

I know this fun stage will pass and even though they both assure me they will never become “teenagers” I know there will be rough patches ahead in our relationships. I know they honor me, even when the day comes that they stop calling me Great Empress. When I say “honor” I mean their internal attitude that accompanies their behavior not the name they choose to call me. Labels are just labels.

You see, when we Honor God we teach our children by example to honor us, so our obedience should not be reluctant or begrudging, but instead coupled with respect and regard. I love that this game has encouraged them to be quick to respond, obedient, cheerful and imaginative. Yet, I am reminded of Ephesians 6:1-4 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”

The name may be in fun, but they take the honoring part very seriously. That is until I'm truly old, and then they can just call me The Dragon Empress!

Much love,

Becoming the Great Empress: Madams, Moms, Motherhood

The Great and Royal Empress

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Category: Kids and ParentingTag: family, relationships

About Rebecca Huff

Rebecca Huff a.k.a. That Organic Mom is a mother to 6 children. She left the business world to pursue her number one passion, her children. Making a commitment to improving the current and future health of her own family and educating her sphere of influence, she has spent over a decade researching, creating and implementing healthier lifestyle choices. Her goal is to help transform families into Wellness Warriors through Baby Steps that are doable by anyone. Encouraging and coaching other moms has been a passion close to her heart. Her hobbies include collecting cookbooks from all over the world, creating nutritious menus and recipes. Her favorite motto is, “There is no moderate amount of a toxic substance!”

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  1. KNOW WHAT MOM KNOWS

    May 13, 2016 at 9:33 pm

    WOW, This was TRULY interesting!!! Honestly, the video was fantastic, to see the kids interact and then Talk too, was super great….and then to go here and find all this info…WOW, Incredible, Thanks Sister Friend for leading me on a Grand Adventure!!!!! Truly WOW!!

    KNOW WHAT MOM KNOWS~YouTube
    Shelly Cole
    MOM 🙂

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    • Rebecca

      May 16, 2016 at 5:18 pm

      Thanks Shelly! You are too sweet…
      xoxo
      Rebecca

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  2. shawna-harmon

    April 22, 2016 at 7:53 am

    im the royal imperial empress armys general! -harmon

    none of that teenager stuff or stopping calling mom the great empress -shawna

    p.s shawna is a sniffer squad unit

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    • Rebecca

      April 22, 2016 at 11:49 am

      Well, thank you to my RIEA General and SSU leader! Appreciate the comments guys….
      Love you,
      The Great and Royal Empress

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      • Masterlegoharmon

        April 22, 2016 at 11:55 am

        Welcome ???????????

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      • Sniffer Squad Leader!

        April 25, 2016 at 6:41 pm

        WHAT AN HONOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!HUHHHHH!!!!!!!!

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        • Rebecca

          April 25, 2016 at 6:42 pm

          thank you Shawna!

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