In today's healthy bite, we are exploring the building blocks of raising mentally healthy, well-balanced young men destined to grow up to be respectable, patriotic members of society.
It is not uncommon to hear these terms:
- fatherless generation
- toxic masculinity
- boys will be boys
Many are trying to redefine manhood and discredit masculinity in a misguided attempt to resolve our problems.
In his book, Unlocking the Power of Fatherhood, Gary Rogers shares his life experiences and the lessons he has learned along the way.
These lessons have all blended to shape a unique mission: to inspire authenticity in men, to furnish them with useful life skills and perspectives, and to empower a healthy culture of fatherhood.
Some call this book a blueprint for embracing the positive essence of fatherhood.
Others say it is a guide for men to achieve a successful life by confronting the unfairness of society, recognizing the lessons of failure, and discovering the value in the hardships of life.
Your book addresses men, primarily fathers, but you make note that much of what you write is meant for women as well. Like you, I believe that as women, we have an important role to play in strengthening and preserving our family bond and the relationships between family members.
You say when a child fails, a parent has an important decision to make – throw them a lifeline or allow them to learn that actions have consequences. That is hard for parents; how do we figure it all out?
You talk about the core strength and strength of character in the strong woman in the first chapter of your book. Who was this woman, and what can we learn from this her?
In the book, you walk the reader through discovering their true self. You ended that exercise with the question, “What am I going to do about it?” Why is that so important for parents?
Transformation in the Storm
You ponder the topic of Victim vs. Sovereign after a trip to the hospital, can you elaborate on this?
Let's talk about the victim mentality.
Can you explain a bit about victimization as it pertains to raising kids free from the bondage of that mindset?
Help us to find the balance when our kids do take on the victim role. How do we help them with problem-solving and emotions?
The Measure of a Man Chapter
You share a scenario when you observe a couple at a restaurant.
When you walk out to the car, stand there until he opens the door for you. If he gets in the car and sits down and you are standing there expectantly, he'll get the message…otherwise, tell him you have an Uber app on your phone.
I have heard from some men say that they have been given hateful looks after holding the door open because some women consider this an insult. How do we teach our sons to respect women in a society that says women can't have it both ways?
Some say we, women, can't expect to date a gentleman AND have the advantages of modern times because it is selfish. What are your thoughts on this topic?
Meet the author of Unlocking the Power of Fatherhood
Gary Rogers is a father and grandfather, pubic speaker, and author of Unlocking the Power of Fatherhood. Gary is currently hosting a webinar series on Zoom about the values of being a good father; you can register for his series here. To connect with Gary, please visit rethinkingfatherhood.com.
June 4th | Chapter 4: Finding the Place of Your Highest Purpose
June 9th | Chapter 5: Dimensions of Authentic Masculinity
June 11th | Chapter 6: Finding Purpose in the Struggle
June 16th | Chapter 7: Taking the Stage of Greatness
June 18th | Chapter 8: Our Sacred Honor, the Core of a Man
Gary D. Rogers is the author of Unlocking the Power of Fatherhood. He grew up in the gulf coast town of Freeport, Texas. The younger of two sons, he was raised by parents who maintained a lifelong, loving relationship in a stable middle-class home. From Stephen F. Austin State University he received a BS in biology and chemistry, along with a Master's degree in aquatic ecology.
As a young man, he lived in the inner city of Brooklyn, New York, where he came face to face with the ravages of poverty, and the crime, drugs, and violence that poverty begets. It was here he began to understand that the problems this country faces will not be fixed by the government, that the answers to our most devastating problems must come from the people.
Gary has been blessed with a wonderful family of his own—a loving wife of forty-four years, three great children, and one rather precocious grandson. He has a passion to protect and preserve our culture so that they, and future generations, continue to enjoy the freedoms that our country cherishes. His greatest hope is that all people live life to its fullest and accomplish all that was meant for them to achieve.
To connect with the author, please visit his website www.garydrogers.com.
Note from Rebecca
Raising kids is a hard and important job, if you are doing it alone, don't worry, God will bless your efforts. When I was a single mom, one of the things I did often in an effort to instill good character qualities in my children was to read carefully selected books. The books I chose needed to have a strong heroic character with good morals and some other admirable qualities.
I have compiled a list of such books here:
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