Setting a New Years Goal is so exciting. I always see it as a fresh start. I think that's why I've always liked Monday's. It's a whole new start for a week. It's fresh, without any mistakes in it! Like a blank page and I can write whatever I want! Although, in reality it's just another day with a new calendar. This year focusing on being consistent is my goal for pretty much everything I want to do. I intend to reach my end goals by focusing on consistency. In my planner, on January first, I wrote in my personal goals for this year and what steps I plan to take to achieve them. If I need a reminder I can simply flip back to New Years! When we set goals it is ideal to think S.M.A.R.T. (specific, manageable, attainable, realistic, timely).
So, I have decided the way I will achieve this is in two ways. One, through accountability… Usually, I do not share my goals, as a safety net, in case I fail. Hey, if no one knows I failed to achieve my goal then it didn't count, right? Wrong! (This is a full blown confession here!) When you fail to reach a goal, you let yourself down! Now, how many people are more important than yourself? I can name a few, God & my family. When I let myself down, in a roundabout way, I'm letting them down too. I'm not being the best I can be for myself, or them. Wow. What an eye opener that thought was.
Two! The second way I plan to be consistent is with a habit. I'm going to call it “Questioning“. Here's how it will work. For example, before I eat anything, I will ask myself a question, “Does what I'm about to consume add to or take away from my health?” Then I will proceed to make a choice. Life is about choices right? Whether we acknowledge that we are making choices or not, we do.
I think about my life (a lot now that I am in mid-life) and I believe I have always had an undesirable habit of just going through life without consciously making choices. There are honestly so many things I have just done without giving it the proper consideration. Likewise, there are things that I do on a daily basis without really contemplating the fact that I'm making a choice.
Not exercising, eating things that I know are bad for me, or eating a second helping of something when I shouldn't, watching too many k-dramas (don't get me started!), obsessing over a clean house, not spending enough time doing things with my kids instead of just being with them, and worse. I have made major decisions in my life without really digging down. I have not made pro|con lists, discussed decisions with others, or even praying!
I recently attended a new church in my quest to find a church that fits our family. We have so many different needs when it comes to church! Without going into a lot of detail, lets just say that I've been battling temptation in several areas of my thought life. It occurred to me while contemplating on this Pastor's sermon that what I was dealing with was simple. Choices. I could choose to do what my heart desires, or I could say no to that deceitful heart of mine (see Jeremiah 17:9).
I hadn't realized I'd been making choices. I know that sounds so lame, but once I realized that everything I do or do not do is actually a choice, it made the answer seem so simple! Why hadn't I thought of this before? Why had I gone through 40-something years of life not realizing I was making choices! How had I not taught this to my children? My idea of “questioning” was born.
I plan to live my life more intentionally this year. This is not just something spiritual that came to me as a result of listening to a sermon on temptation, but something I've been working through for months. The next time I'm tempted by a particular thought, I will ask my self, “would doing that honor God or simply satisfy my own desires?”
Often I hear people saying they have no regrets. Well, that's just not me. I have regrets! Lots of them! I don't want to add to the list. I want to make choices without regrets! So, here's looking to a great 2015 ahead. Not a year without mistakes, for I am sure to make a few of those, but a year of life lived with questions, intentions and consistency.
Have you set attainable New Years goals? Did you think S.M.A.R.T. when you made them? Please share how you plan to stick to your goals this year!