It's so hard for me as a woman to make a decision with my head! I tend to make decisions based on emotion. That heart of mine loves to talk to my head.
Ever think about the little “angel” and little “devil” that television often portrays sitting on each shoulder? For me it's more like a little brain on one side and a little heart on the other! My brain tells me to listen to logic, my heart tells me to listen to my feelings.
For years people have tried to tell me that feelings are not always based on reality. So why is it so hard for me? I consider myself a REALIST to the bone! I considered it carefully when my “guilt-voice” told me I was a pessimist.
After more than a decade of being married to an optimist (truly, optimist is an understatement for my husband, let's just say Optimistic-Super-Man has gotten to the top of many corporate ladders with his “I can do anything” mentality) I realized something about myself.
I finally came to the conclusion that I am NOT a pessimist. I'm simply a realist. I don't see the glass half-empty. I see 4 ounces of water and 4 ounces of air. I am so concrete-sequential, so black or white, so all or nothing! I don't always see the bad side of things, I don't always see the good side of things. I see what is.
I am learning however, to see potential. It is my intention to be all-or-nothing about maintaining balance. Reminding myself to be more flexible, to create flexibility within structure. This isn't always easy! It is definitely worth working on!
I want to be more realistic about my life, how I feel, and why I do what I do. What makes me tick!? A friend told me recently she was learning how to accept “good enough” sometimes, and I think this helps when you are schooling children, keeping up with laundry, or trying to get it ALL done. So should I go by my feelings or reality?
When I think of “feelings” I think of my “heart”… when I think of “reality” I think of my “head” so even though it is common to hear someone say, “just follow your heart”… is that really good advice? When someone tells us to follow our heart it's really not advice, it's more a vague encouragement to do whatever it is we wanted to do in the first place. “Guard your heart above all else,” says Solomon, “for it determines the course of your life.” Proverbs 4:23
God's plan for your life is not that you would follow your heart, but that you would guard it. So, don't go through life following your heart, instead follow Jesus wholeheartedly. The Bible says the heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Jeremiah 17:9
My heart has lead me into trouble many times! So stop following your heart and lead it instead. For where your treasure is your heart will be also. Jesus can give you a new heart. God is the creator of man and only He can create in me a pure heart.
What is your thinking-style? Are you like me, a concrete-sequential thinker, or are you more abstract-random? Leave your comments below and how it has affected your life.